As we secure our seatbelts on the plane we’ve all heard the flight attendant say “put your mask on first.”
These instructions I have heard on every flight, yet I have never really paid attention because I never imagined myself in a situation where I would need to put them to use. That is until recently, but not on a flight.
I have spent the better part of my life raising kids. Making sure they are fed, clothed, doing well in school, going to youth sporting events to cheer them on, making last minute projects, doing hair, cleaning house, preparing dinner, etc. I have spent the better part of my life showing up for everyone else without the ability to take sick days or holidays and forgetting that to be most effective I need to allow myself some “me” time, space of my own
The real question is as a mom and wife how do you train yourself to take a time out to recharge? How do you let the laundry wait, the dishes sit? How do you let the kids “work it out” on their own? How do you “put your mask on first?” This is definitely something I have always struggled with. I have always felt I must always answer the phone. I must always drop everything to help when someone asks me to. Give someone else my last piece of candy. I have always felt taking even 30 mins to myself during the day is selfish. I have spent the better part of my life getting offended when other people put me on the “back burner” not realizing I have been doing it to myself for years.
A few months ago I was put into a situation where everything I felt didn’t matter and I was only given the option of abiding by decisions made be someone else because I have zero control over the outcome. Such a disheartening place to be.
To have someone else control an entire situation that completely affects your life is absolutely not a position I like being in. Before reacting I took a step back considered my options and realized this is the exact situation I have put myself in many times before. I have many times made self sacrifices to make sure others aren’t going without.
At that moment I made a promise to myself to make sure I make intentional daily effort of self care.
While 2019 wasn’t by any means a bad year, in 2020 my promise to myself is to “Put my mask on first!”